Individual Counseling

Come on in for a free consults offered Friday mornings from 9:30 am to 10:00 am. My super comfy office is in the Sunnyland neighborhood of Bellingham, parking is easy and the waiting room is usually empty before noon. Therapy is different for everyone, sometimes weekly, every other week, monthly, or as needed. Sessions are 1-2 hours or more depending on your preference. Longer time frames allow for more complete EMDR processing, like being able to watch a move uninterrupted rather than waiting a week to come back to it. I also offer encrypted messaging for support between sessions.

Optimized Mental Healing

Expect meaningful work paced to meet your needs. If you come in anxious, we will work slowly and calmly to slow your nervous system down. If you come in depressed, we will work some energy into the session and look for up regulating (energizing) activities to help. We will identify points of stress, determine where any self critical or judgmental thoughts come from, and address the circumstances that led to unbalancing. When you are able to live in balance, mostly in a flow state, you have reached optimized mental health. Imagine this: Each and every one of my thoughts and behaviors have depth and meaning. Huzzah!

Family Work

I have a unique way of working with teens and parents to identify family story through genealogy and mapping out life events starting with the grandparents. I have found great success helping teens get closer with their parents by sharing the story of how unique our stories are in this world, focusing on shared experience rather than bickering and fighting.

Click above for the email link ryan@ryantolman.com or text 360-594-5206

or give me a call.

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